Nelly Barykin Biography

But what is now happening around the name of the musician and the performer, unfortunately, is quite unsightly. Someone really wants to find the culprit of his premature care, as if it were easier to reconcile with loss. It so happened that the prosecution was almost unanimously brought by the second wife of Alexander Nelly. Today, from all sides, stones of reproaches fly into it: they say, she married a peasant on herself, drank all the juices from him and even the inheritance was shaken - Barykin died just on the eve of the divorce.

With the advent of a young wife, the musician’s work after a long crisis received a second wind, a disc “Nelly” was recorded. And in a divorce from the first wife Galina, with whom Barykin lived 30 years, is by no means to blame - this marriage broke up before their meeting. But, it seems, people who consider themselves close to Alexander do not take into account his opinion.

But he said: “The meeting with Nelly turned my whole life turned over! In the end, it was Nelly who gave birth to his adored daughter Zhenechka. I did not have the slightest opportunity to just talk to someone, configured to me at least neutrally, and tell how everything really was. Instead of talking about Sasha as a creative person and a person, I had to waste time and nerves, responding to someone's accusations.

Even if they gave me a word, then they were mounted so that the words were not at all the meaning that was invested in them initially. Apparently, many people wanted to make PR on Sasha’s death. The harmless somehow even broke into the air of one of the television programs, although he was not allowed there to say: “Everything that you say here and what you blame it is a lie!

He knew that his emotional performance would still be cut out, but he considered it his duty to do so. And when the rest picked up the scandalous version, refute it and prove that you, roughly speaking, are not a camel, is no longer possible. Although the majority of those goodnesses that are now pouring me with mud from television screens and pages of newspapers, no one for Sasha at all: they know nothing about me or how we lived with Barykin and why we parted.

People who really know the truth do not give interviews and do not say anything bad. They want to perpetuate Sasha’s memory with good deeds - for example, to create an Alexander Barykin Foundation to popularize his music. And everyone else only runs, shout and only draw his memory. All this - I'm sure! He sees all this dirt and muck from above. Can people who swear that they love him, do it so painful?

Perhaps make a documentary about him. In this good business, we would have to unite with his son Gosha, with other people who love and love Sasha. On one of the television programs dedicated to the memory of Alexander Barykin and in fact - gossip about him, I went to his last girl - light. She suggested meeting, talking, because I and she were not strangers to him. But she, apparently, was so opposed to me that she was completely lost and seemed to want to make contact, but was afraid.

I hope that time will put everything in place, especially since I am not to blame before Sasha - my conscience is pure in front of Him and before God. And all that is happening around us now, I, as a believer, consider it a test - it just needs to go through, if possible with dignity. It was love at first sight - both with me. You look in thousands of eyes and with surprise you understand that they are often empty: they have neither feelings nor thoughts.

Therefore, when two people meet with views and some light of sympathy and understanding lights up in them, this means that people have found each other. And then you can hide your feelings, you can show them - this is no longer important. Nelli: “Sasha looked carefully that it was simply impossible to fence off from him” I do not believe in a chemical explanation of love. It seems to me that it arises only if the strings of two souls sound harmoniously together.

Unfortunately, often this feeling is not said exalted, as it deserves, but cynical. And only because many, having met love, unfortunately, did not hold it, but I was sure in my soul that he would not call - he never had familiar girls! But he immediately, as soon as he arrived in Moscow, found some completely trifling occasion and began to name three times a day.

For example, I could dial my number just to tell a joke just heard. Now I understand that the feeling for Sasha arose initially, but I did not allow him to flare up, because I understood: it would be very painful. Soon Sasha came to our city again, this time only to me. Then I went to Moscow, then we went to Samara together. So everything spun. Now you rarely meet a man who can behave so decisively towards a woman.

He made an offer to me in the same manner that he looked after: they say, I want and take it! Once simply said: “I get married on you, and that’s it! He knew what to hook a woman - with his lyrics. After all, what attracts us to men?Sincerity, spirituality. And in life, many try to hide these qualities deeper, so as not to be known as an emotional, susceptible and, therefore weak person.

It’s better to portray a sort of brutal macho: let everyone fear you. Creative people in real life, as a rule, want to seem different, but they take off the masks on the stage: you can’t hide your gut there. I fell in love with Sasha as I saw him on stage. With the advent of Nelli, who gave birth to a musician daughter Zhenechka, Alexander Barykin gained a second wind - was your wedding on a scale?

From the moment of submitting applications to the registry office before registration, only a week has passed - what celebrations could be organized in such a short time? Even having learned that I was pregnant, I stayed there for another year and continued to work in the tax. Only then did we move to Moscow. With his first wife, Galina Barykin lived 30 years, raising two children: the son of George and the adoptive daughter of Kira - we have a difference in the age of 33, Sasha is older than my parents.

This is probably why no one believed that I really love him. They tried to convict me in some selfish motives, condemned violently. I then realized that human envy simply has no limit. It would seem that people found each other, they are happy - let them live. Why touch them? No, everyone climbs with their opinions, with their advice, which no one asks them.

As they did not call me - and an upstart, and mediocrity, and by a bog. Now this situation is repeated. Probably, for a man, the desire is quite normal, and he, as a well -known person, had the right to do so. But I could not afford to dissolve in a loved one, if only because another beloved person appeared - our child, also in need of my love and attention. Of course, he was very delighted with the birth of a child, but he was not a dad who would agile and mess with the baby.

I did not demand this from him: for me it was important to understand, and not my husband’s ability to score nails or nurse a child. Probably I have not quite female psychology. I was not jealous of Sasha, gave him freedom, which he really needed. I remember as soon as we got married, he told me: “I do not like to rub about anyone, and you don’t have about me either, otherwise I will just drive you out!

Therefore, he went everywhere without me, but I trusted him: I did not follow him, did not find out where, how and with whom he was spending time. But he was jealous even to heels and short skirts - I did not want me to wear them. The funeral of Alexander Barykin, March 29 of the year. The mother of the musician Alexander Georgievna and his second wife Nelli - why could you seriously quarrel?

This happened when we began to work together - write music, texts. But a serious discord began later - due to the fact that I wanted my own creative realization, and he was against it. At the first stage, he helped me in this, but then he saw that I began to succeed, and his creative jealousy to me much exceeded male jealousy, and in this we looked like him.

Now many tell me: “He was a genius, and you had to protect him!

But understand, if I were a girl without any creative claims, Sasha would never marry me. He did not need a wife who meal meekly sat at home and cooked borscht, he needed a man who understood and appreciated his work. Probably for this, and for my inner freedom, for the desire to take place, he fell in love. But then for some reason decided that his wife should quit everything and belong to him entirely, but I did not want to sacrifice myself.

I think this was a big surprise for him, because in all his previous relations with women he left first. Of course, the age difference played a role: no matter what I say and did, he still looked at me as a child, and I already had my own opinion on many issues. But we both were very painfully worried about our parting. And today, recalling our life with him, I regret only one thing - that we partially crashed in time, because he was already an adult, formed and did not want to change anything in himself.

If we are peers, perhaps everything would have turned out differently. If we had managed to document a divorce, reproaches from all sides would not have poured on me now that I am allegedly going to assign myself his inheritance, which, by the way, I do not pretend at all. I’m not going to enter into any litigation about this, I don’t want to share anything with anyone - I just don’t need it.

At first, I simply did not believe her. But she called the director of Barykin, and he confirmed that this is true. After the death of Sasha, I feel insanely lonely, because, even having parted, we did not stop communicating with him. Probably, I will no longer find such a friend as he was for me.